THE GIST; Who should Pay on a Date?

Hey Guys, welcome back to my blog. I can't explain exactly how I feel this week just yet, but I'm hoping for the best, the week is still young. Hope you all are doing great?

Some time ago I met a guy and after a few weeks of chatting, he decided to take me out, he invited me out on a date which I was a bit reluctant about at first but he was able to persuade me to, we fixed a date and he said he would pick me up from my house.
              On the fixed date, he was really late (if you know me, you'll know I hate people wasting my time) but this guy I was meeting physically for the first time was about 2 hours late (who does that?)
He came to my house to pick me up as planned and he took me to this really nice sit out lounge with soft music, where we both had something light to eat and drink. I had a good laugh and I could tell he had fun too, so it was generally a good date. After the whole date, he was to take me back home, but he looked for an excuse not to, so he requested I take a cab back home which I felt was wrong but I didn't argue.
He called after about an hour to know if I got home safe, and promised to call me later. Later that night, he called me and we got talking, in the cause of our conversation, he said "why didn't you offer to pay" and I'm like - "you say what? He started telling me about his ex, how she always paid on dates or sometimes they'd share the bills which in his own words "was really a cool thing to do" This got me a bit upset, so I had to tell him if he wanted me to pay for what I ate, he should've just said something (life is not that hard) no need stressing on issues like this, he went on to say, you know even if you had tried to pay I wouldn't let you pay... So why are you now talking about it tho? I was in the comfort of my house when you pleaded I go out with you.. he sure shouldn't expect me to pay on the date, after wasting my time for about 2 hours, he wasn't even in the right place to say something like that.

             This got me thinking, so I decided to share with you what I think about Dates and who should settle the bills. 
I am very much attracted to a guy that can take care of a lady, a guy that takes it upon himself to make sure everything is okay with his lady, someone that can take me on a good date without hoping I pay, I mean this is totally wrong, a guy shouldn't hope his date pays for the food they both eat especially on a first date (trust me if you let a lady pay on a first date, she begins to doubt you competence as a man). I know some people say when a lady pays on a date, it makes the guy respect her more (I personally do not believe this). A man is said to be the provider and it should remain so until the woman offers. Don't misquote me tho, I'm not saying a woman shouldn't pay sometimes especially if she initiated the date or if she knows the guy is not really financially stable at that time. You can support your man with some things, you can even surprise him if you so wish but trust me this is not a criteria for keeping a man. I've heard stories of ladies who give all they earn to their husband or boyfriend as the case may be and the guy still cheats on her or even leaves her for another girl, so if you are trying to use this method to impress a guy, darling you are on a long thing.

Another thing is the relationship between you and the person you're going out with, in some cases this things don't even matter, you don't even need to over-think it or dwell on it. You can go with with your "friend" and decide to pay or even you guys will decide to share the bill.
Paying on a date should not solely be the duty of the guy because you're both on the date to enjoy each others company, although
I won't go on a date and start to pretend like I'm going to pay if you were the one that initiated the date. Trust me no girl wants to always be the one paying on dates, no girl wants to date someone that can take her sometimes on surprise dinner, or a guy that can't surprise her with a makeover you know this things right...(I don't know what the feminist movement is saying but I'm not about that life). I'm a big girl and can pay my bills but once you decide to step into the position of a guy in my life you therefore take a part in those responsibilities.

           This doesn't mean because a guy decides to take you on a date, you empty your stomach before leaving your house and eat what you know you can't afford on a normal day, because if i'm a guy in this situation, I'll make you pay for your food and God help you you can't pay.
As a  girl Never forget to hold "vex money" when going on a date, especially a first date because you never can tell who will ditch you (just saying tho).

PS- This is just my opinion and I stand to be corrected.

Please share your experiences and your opinion down in the comment section.

Adios Amigos.