The Girl Code

Hey friends!! how are you doing today, I ma really excited it's Friday (TGIF) like I've been waiting for this day since Monday.  

Ladies, how do you do, I'm really excited because today is about us. I am not so much of a feminist because I know there are things a guy should do and those things a lady should do, so when talking about Feminism it has to be an all-round discussion, but you know that’s a discussion for another day. What I want to talk about today is something I personally feel is more important than the feminism we all shout every day, although you can say it’s a little part of feminism and this is where real feminism should even begin from; Girl Code. This topic is so dare to my heart because the generation we are in is so pathetic when it comes to women protecting each other. I know there is no written down law anywhere about the so called girls code but it’s just something we should all know, it’s something that should be a habit or a part of our everyday living.

It’s so cool how guys have their bro code that they like to adhere strictly to, they take it seriously and try not to go against it (it’s also not a written down law but they know it’s just the sanest thing to do). We girls actually tend to do the exact opposite of what we wouldn’t want to be done to us. Like for example, we do not even need a set of rule to tell us that it is so wrong to date your besties ex who treated her badly without her permission, I mean if I keep coming to you as my best friend about my man, who probably hits me or cheats on me, and finally I grow the balls to walk away from that relationship, most likely with your help.

So for those of you ladies out there we have never heard of the girl’s code, I’ll list out some that I really think in my opinion are very important.

1. Never date your friends ex without first telling your friend about it; like who ever does this in the first place? You go behind your best friend of 6 years to date her last boyfriend, I mean like is it family dating? Ehn? Like ladies we can do better than this. This is definitely going to cause a bit of problem between you and your friend, why would you want to throw away the friendship you have built for 6years because of a guy you are not even sure would eventually get married to you. Its only okay to date your friends ex if you didn’t know they ever dated or maybe in a rare case where they broke up on a mutual ground due to a reason like genotype. 

2. Don’t hate on other women (especially those you do not know)- This is very common in this part of the world, women just on each other for no reason, I’ve heard people say things like I just hate her and I don’t know why and I’m like this girl doesn’t even know you, she doesn’t even know you exist in this part of the planet, she doesn’t know your name, why then give yourself a headache? You hate on another lady doing better than you, someone is more beautiful than you instead of appreciating the beauty you hate on her. Why so angry tho? Why so jealous?

3. Honesty is the best policy for, “How do I look?” - Sometimes when I see some outfits, I wonder whose friends let them walk out like that. Your friends should never let you leave the house looking like a fashion victim. No lady should be seen working round the street looking like she just fell out of space, assist other ladies with at least clothes when you know they do not have. Why should your friend ask you “how do I look?” and you tell her she looks like the president’s daughter knowing she doesn’t. Tell the truth ladies, tell the truth.

4. Protect your friend from a cheating man; Always tell your friend about that cheating boyfriend she is crazy about, let her know he is not worth one minute of her time. I know most times we ladies try to play safe knowing they always say be careful in being the 3^rd party when it comes to relationship matters, “if I talk now, they will now put me in the middle when they settle their fight” I know but at least you tried to safe a life. Third party or no third party never let a cheating man get away with it. 

I hope to see your opinions in the comment session below. Till next time...Adios