How to Get Over Heartbreaks

Life is filled with relationships. From the moment we are born to the moment we die we are in relationship with all kinds of people from blood relatives, friends and lovers  to co-workers and  casual acquaintances; from very intimate to very casual.  With so much practice you would think that we would be well equipped to  handle all aspects of our relationships easily, but instead it seems that many, if not most of us continue to struggle both within the relationship but even more so when we try to end it; especially if it has been an intimate or a long term relationship.

Divorce rates in the Nigeria have been steadily gaining grounds.  So the social stigma that divorce carried 20 to 40 years ago has all disappeared and we cant but wonder if this is caused by the evolving world or its just mere intolerance from both parties involved, yet there is often much pain and suffering for both parties involved. We have support groups and family, friends, counselors readily available for guidance and solace but still, deep pain and loss seem unavoidable except in rear cases.

Some relationships end due because the parties involved grow out of love for each other, while some others end due to natural causes, death of the partner, accidents that leads to loss of body part and the other party involved can not just deal with watching their partner they have loved for so many years die slowly or go through pain they can't help them get out of. They find a better way out of it by just walking away and having to bear the struggle of getting back on their feet.

Why is it that relationships are often so hard to get over?  We keep reliving certain moments long after they are past.  Even when a break up is mutually agreeable there is pain, both psychological pain and also sometimes even physical pain.  How can you let go of relationship without tearing?

1. Accept the fact that you have no control over the outcome. you can't force anybody to be in a relationship with you, when they are out, THEY ARE OUT. Embrace the face that you are going through an heartbreak.

2. Cry. This is definitely one of the best therapies when it comes to heartbreaks or loss. After recognizing the fact that you have no control over your issue, just let it all out. Who says crying is a sign of weakness as long as you don't go about sobbing all the time. It is okay to cry and let out all the pain.

3. Distract yourself with the things that makes you happy. Go out and have fun, see a some new movies, take yourself out, or go out with your friends. listen to good music, not those sad songs that makes you remember the wrong things, read good books or learn something new, work on making yourself a better person.

4. Never be tempted to rebound with sex. A lot of people make this mistake, they quickly jump out to have sex with the first person that comes their way, some people even go back to their ex that had hurt them so badly. Sex is not always the escape route. If possible abstain for a while after going through a break up.

5. Believe your best is yet to come. That person that left you is not meant for you. The relationship was just to teach you something important about life. Look at the bright side of life, look at the beautiful people around, they can't all be bad, believe something good is coming your way and it will.

6. Most importantly, Pray and get closer to God. He won't let you down, he won't let you make the same choice mistake as the past.